Three Words, Two Birds, One Stone.

Why You Before Me might be the only thing we can all agree on (even if we don’t realize it yet)

If you talk to people on either side of any issue they say the same thing. The other side just doesn't get it, I can't stand people these days, “people suck” etc. the ironic thing is you are the people in someone else's sentence.

Most of us spend a lot of time frustrated at people who just don’t get it.

We watch them lie, avoid, contradict themselves, stay in loops, and somehow think they’re “awake.”

And what’s worse?

They’re thinking the same thing about us.

Everyone wants everyone else to “own their bullshit.”To be more aware.To finally look in the mirror.

But here’s the delicate truth:

The moment you try to make someone else see their reflection… they often just turn away.

Not because they’re bad.But because we’ve made accountability into a battlefield instead of a process.

The Messy Reality: Everyone’s a Hypocrite

We say we want peace… but only if we win first.We say we want unity… but only with people who agree with us.We say we want honesty… but only when it flatters us.

It’s messy.

Humans are strategic. Emotional. Tribal. Defensive.

We don’t just hear what’s being said—we hear who is saying it.And that changes everything.

When the “Wrong” Person Says the Right Thing

Let’s make it simple:

Say two types of people exist in a high school—the “jocks” and the “nerds.”

If a jock says something valuable that could benefit the nerds, it’ll likely get dismissed. Mocked. Rejected.

Not because it’s wrong—but because of who said it.

Same in reverse.

If the nerds say something insightful, the jocks might call it soft, weird, or irrelevant.

That’s how identity kills truth.

And this dynamic doesn’t stop at high school.It’s politics.It’s religion.It’s culture.It’s gender.It’s race.It’s class.It’s everything.

We’ve built a world where even truth becomes a threat—if it comes from the wrong mouth.

The Problem With Playing This Game

When we stay stuck in the loop of trying to “call people out,” we create two unintended consequences:

We bypass our own work.
We make others even less likely to do theirs.

Because when someone feels attacked—even if what you say is right—they defend.They dig in.They reject the mirror, not because it’s false,but because it’s coming from you.

This is the loop.

Everyone’s yelling “do the work,”but no one is actually doing it.

You Before Me Isn’t a Slogan. It’s a Strategy.

This isn’t just a feel-good mantra.It’s not a branding play.

It’s a tactical move.

Because when you try to force others to change:

You waste energy avoiding your own reflection.
You trigger their defenses and reinforce their identity.
You keep the battle outside when it’s always been inside.

And the more you try to fix them, the more they fixate on not listening to you.

This Is the Two Birds, One Stone Move

When you hold the mirror up for yourself first, you do something revolutionary:

One stone: self-reflection.Two birds: your own transformation, and the quiet space where theirs can begin.

No shouting.No superiority.No forcing.

Just stillness.Clarity.Integrity.

Even if they don’t follow your lead—you’re no longer part of the noise.

The Hardest Truth to Swallow

The biggest challenge is accepting that the most we can do… is within ourselves.

Not because external action doesn’t matter.But because external action without inner alignment is just noise.

We keep thinking the world will change when we inspire others.But inspiration is fleeting.

You’ve seen it:

People show up to protests.
They cry. They scream. They post.
And a week later, the momentum is gone.

What’s left?

The same unconscious loops.The same wounded kids in adult costumes.The same mimickers mimicking other mimickers.

Most Adults Are Just Unhealed Children With Job Titles

We live in a world where most people aren’t leading their lives.They’re just reenacting trauma with better language.

And we follow them.And mimic them.And copy their shadows disguised as confidence.

No one’s doing their work—because everyone’s too busy performing it.

This Is the Sharpest Thread of Truth

There’s one thread—thin, sharp, almost invisible—that runs through everything:

A person’s ability to live their authentic storyto move in and out of loopsto let go of performanceand integrate what they know into how they liveis the only thing that actually transforms anything.

Not more noise.Not better branding.Not viral wisdom.

Real living.Embodied awareness.Inward reflection, expressed outward in subtle, powerful ways.

The Trap of Exposure: Conspiracies, Corruption, and the Search for Significance

Let’s go even deeper—into the undercurrent behind so much modern obsession:

The need to expose the truth.

People aren’t just having opinions anymore.They’re trying to expose something:

Corruption
Lies
Agendas
Dark systems
Hidden powers

And yes—some of it is real.But here’s what no one’s talking about:

Even if you expose it… then what?

Does the world change?Does your life heal?Do your unconscious loops vanish?

No.

Because what needs to happen after exposing corruptionis the exact same thing that needed to happen before:

You still have to face yourself.

Truth Isn’t Hiding in One Place

Conspiracy obsession is often disguised as “truth-seeking.”But truth isn’t hiding in one place.

Truth is:

In your defensiveness
In your attachments
In your reactions
In your pain
In your unresolved story

You don’t need to unravel a global scheme to find truth.

You need a mirror.

Because if you can’t tell the truth about yourself,you’ll misuse whatever truth you think you’ve found about the world.

The False High of Exposure

Chasing conspiracy gives you something real:

A feeling of significance.A sense of purpose.A belief that you know what others don’t.

But most of the time?

It’s bypass.

It’s spiritualized projection.It’s performance in disguise.It’s a way to feel powerful without becoming present.

What If the Real Conspiracy… Is Avoidance?

What if the system isn’t keeping people asleep—what if people are choosing sleep over stillness?

What if the deeper conspiracyis that we’ve all agreed to never look inward?

Because real truth doesn’t expose the world.It exposes you.

And most people will do anything to avoid that.

This Is the Only Battle Worth Fighting

Because if the battle isn’t within you,

it’s the wrong battle.

And if the mirror isn’t present,

nothing will change—no matter how loud your voice gets.

So Let’s Try This Instead

Before you tell someone else to heal—ask where you haven’t.

Before you post about justice—ask where you’re still projecting.

Before you explain the world—ask what you haven’t digested.

Because if you can do that?

You stop being the noise.You start becoming the pattern breaker.