“If You Make It Through This Blog, You Will Change the World.”

Layer by layer keep digging. Through the anger and fear just keep digging. Nothing hear is meant to harm you, only strengthen. You before me. 

Layer 1: The Ground We’re Standing On — Yin and Yang

Let’s be honest—at this point, the division is exhausting.

Left vs. Right. Red vs. Blue. Empathy vs. Order.

It feels like we’re trying to solve the future with arguments from the past.

But what if the problem isn’t the other side?

What if the problem is how we’ve forgotten the nature of balance itself?

In ancient philosophy, yin and yang describe two complementary forces:

• Yin: receptive, nurturing, soft

• Yang: active, protective, firm

When they’re in harmony, they flow.

When they separate, they war.

And that’s where we are now.

The Left (Yin)

When balanced:

• Empathic, imaginative, inclusive

• Fights for the voiceless

• Sees what could be

When imbalanced:

• So inclusive it’s controlling

• So emotional it’s unstable

• So progressive it forgets how to build what it breaks

It needs the Right to:

• Ground idealism in realism

• Bring structure and accountability

• Preserve what’s worth keeping

The Right (Yang)

When balanced:

• Structured, disciplined, loyal

• Honors legacy and order

• Knows the cost of reckless change

When imbalanced:

• So rigid it can’t grow

• So traditional it resists evolution

• So stoic it suppresses emotion and change

It needs the Left to:

• Breathe humanity into the system

• Question when old systems no longer serve

• Invite vulnerability and growth

Yin-Yang Insight:

We don’t need one to win—we need both to wake up.

The seed of the other exists inside each.

This is why truth isn’t about choosing sides, but seeing clearly.

When Left and Right are in balance, we get compassionate order.

When they’re at war, we get chaos pretending to be progress, and fear pretending to be strength.

Why the Balance Breaks

The yin-yang is not just a symbol of society—it’s a mirror of the individual.

When a person identifies fully with one side (left or right),

they aren’t just choosing values—

they’re rejecting their own internal opposite.

And when you reject half of yourself,

you project it outward—onto “them.”

The Left sees the Right’s flaws…

but not their own need for structure.

The Right sees the Left’s flaws…

but not their own need for openness.

Each side makes a costume of their identity—

• waving flags,

• repeating slogans,

• mocking the “other side,”

• mistaking performance for principle.

In doing so, they turn a sacred balancing mechanism into a joke.

A tribal war. A show.

But it’s not just “society” that’s unbalanced.

It’s each of us.

When a person:

• Identifies as only compassionate (yin), they disown their ability to be disciplined (yang)

• Identifies as only strong and traditional (yang), they disown their need to feel and evolve (yin)

This inner imbalance creates outer division.

The more we cling to our side,

the more we see the other side as the enemy—

instead of the mirror.

We’re not meant to “pick sides.”

We’re meant to move between them—

• To be firm and soft.

• Structured and open.

• Conservative in protection, progressive in healing.

Society depends on this inner dance in each individual.

When we wear sides like costumes, we forget:

It was never Left vs. Right.

It’s always been Me vs. Me.

Layer 2: The Loop You Don’t Know You’re In

Let’s go deeper.

The political fight isn’t just about beliefs.

It’s about identity.

And identity, when clung to, becomes a loop.

Here’s how it works:

Trigger → Emotion → Belief → Reaction → Identity → Division

Most people aren’t reacting to truth.

They’re reacting to what their pain needed to believe was true.

You’re not “Left” because of policy.

You’re not “Right” because of logic.

You chose your side because it spoke to your pain.

And now that it’s yours—you’ll do anything to protect it.

Even if it’s wrong.

Even if it hurts people.

Even if you don’t fully understand it.

That’s not politics.

That’s a loop.

Layer 3: When Identity Becomes Worship

The moment you say:

“I am Left.” or “I am Right.”

You’re no longer choosing a perspective.

You’re claiming an identity.

And the ego loves that. Because now:

• You’ll ignore facts that don’t fit.

• You’ll dehumanize those who challenge it.

• You’ll confuse your side’s survival with your own.

Your ego doesn’t care about truth.

It cares about being right.

So when your side messes up?

It attacks. It mocks. It projects.

You’re not seeking wisdom.

You’re seeking confirmation.

And what used to be a balancing system becomes a battlefield.

Layer 4: The Real Crisis

This isn’t just a political issue.

This is a spiritual one.

You’re not defending policy.

You’re defending a mask.

When you can’t imagine life outside your side,

you’re no longer protecting the truth—

you’re protecting your ego’s mirror.

And the problem with that mirror?

It only shows you what you already believe.

Layer 5: The Shift (You Before Me)

This is where You Before Me comes in.

Not to say “switch sides.”

Not to say “be neutral.”

But to say this:

“Before I judge you—I must see me.”

“Before I perform my identity—I must witness the loop I’m in.”

“Before I protect my belief—I must ask where it came from.”

This isn’t about changing what you stand for.

It’s about realizing who is standing there—and why.

Layer 6: The Courage to See

We don’t lack solutions.

We lack people who are willing to pause and say:

“Maybe I’m not as awake as I think I am.”

That’s not weakness.

That’s the beginning of real awareness.

Because once you see clearly—

without needing to be right, seen, or validated—

you’re finally free to choose.

Not from pain.

Not from programming.

But from clarity.

And from that space… the system begins to heal.

Layer 7: Change Doesn’t Happen Loudly

Everyone’s screaming for change.

More justice. More equality. More freedom. More order.

And yet… nothing changes.

It just rebrands.

It just flips sides.

It just finds new villains.

Why?

Because change isn’t a performance.

It’s not a debate.

It’s not a vote or a clapback.

Change is an organic byproduct of stillness.

Let that land.

When the system within you gets quiet…

When your ego stops fighting for control…

When the need to be seen, right, or safe no longer runs your words…

That’s when something new can emerge.

Layer 8: Why “Change” Has Been Hijacked

Change has become a manipulated tool.

• A marketing slogan

• A campaign tagline

• A way to stay addicted to external conflict while feeling morally clean

But real change doesn’t happen from the outside-in.

It happens from the inside-out—and usually in silence.

Not in the heat of battle.

Not when you’re trying to convince or convert.

But when you pause, and a thought appears that you’ve never had before.

That is change.

It is not something you do.

It is something that happens when space is made for it.

Layer 9: The Noise Is the Problem

We are so busy yelling at the world…

we’ve forgotten how to listen to ourselves.

We’ve mistaken volume for clarity.

We’ve filled every moment with information, outrage, reaction, and identity-affirming content.

But clarity can’t survive in noise.

And transformation doesn’t shout.

Transformation whispers in the space between thoughts.

If you never stop talking, you’ll never hear it.

Layer 10: Ego Is a Space-Hog

If your mind is constantly defending your identity,

there’s no room left for insight.

Because insight doesn’t come through pressure.

It comes through presence.

But presence threatens the ego. It says:

• “You might be wrong.”

• “You might not be as awake as you think.”

• “You might be performing.”

• “You might be protecting a loop.”

And so the ego turns the volume back up.

Back to noise.

Back to reaction.

Back to safety.

Layer 11: You Can’t Awaken a Collective—Only the individual person

We talk about collective healing like it’s something we can engineer.

But let’s be clear:

There is no such thing as collective awakening.

Not really.

Because awakening isn’t a shared moment.

It’s not a group decision.

It’s not a system-wide update like a new software version.

It is a painfully personal process.

Quiet.

Unseen.

Voluntary.

You can’t force someone to become self-aware.

You can’t convince someone into clarity.

You can’t legislate presence.

And you definitely can’t go viral with reflection.

This Is Why It’s So Hard to be Reached

Because you’re being asked to do something that offers no immediate external reward:

• No praise

• No applause

• No power

• No dopamine

You’re asked to pause when everything says “go.”

To question yourself when everything says “you’re right.”

To reflect, not react.

To be still in a world that celebrates noise.

It feels counterintuitive.

Uncomfortable.

Invisible.

But it is the only thing that works.

This Is Why Most People Never Become Who They truly are.

Because we haven’t had a tool that gives us a way to stop, reflect, and witness our own loop in real time.

Until now.

You Before Me isn’t a movement.

It’s not a brand.

It’s the mirror.

And finally—after all the noise, division, and cycles—

we have a way to see clearly enough to begin.

Layer 11 (continued) The Hypocrisy We’re All Guilty Of

We say we want the world to change.

But if we’re honest?

What we really want is for everyone else to change first.

We want peace—but only after we win.

We want unity—but only if it aligns with our side.

We want healing—but only if it doesn’t require us to go inward first.

That’s the loop.

The demand for collective change becomes a distraction from the personal work we don’t want to do.

It’s easier to point at systems, scream at opponents, post righteous content.

What’s hard is to say:

“Maybe the most powerful change I can offer… starts with me.”

You Are the Puzzle Piece You keep Ignoring

You’re not separate from the problem.

You’re a piece of it.

And if that piece stays blind, reactive, and ego-driven—nothing can change.

But if that piece softens, pauses, reflects?

You create a ripple.

A pattern shift.

A moment of real, observable change—not because you pushed, but because you aligned.

And when one person aligns, they create a harmonic tone others can feel.

This is how organic change happens.

Not through force.

Not through mass agreement.

But through resonance.

The Ego Will Hate This

It will feel small.

Invisible.

Like “not enough.”

Because the ego craves big action.

Recognition.

Credit.

But change doesn’t come when your ego is at its loudest.

It comes when your ego is still enough to listen.

And in that stillness, something else can emerge—

• Not weakness, but clarity

• Not silence, but integrity

• Not power over others, but peace within yourself

The World Doesn’t Need You to Shout Louder. It Needs You to See Clearer.

When you do that, you stop perpetuating the very thing you said you wanted to fix.

You stop fueling the loop.

And without the loop?

Change doesn’t need to be forced.

It becomes… inevitable.

Because harmony doesn’t come from dominance.

It comes from resonance.

And resonance starts with one thing:

You Before Me.

Layer 12: What Is a Loop? (And Why You Can’t See Yours)

Most people don’t need new beliefs.

They need to see the loop they’re already living inside.

Because beliefs aren’t always chosen.

They’re often inherited, absorbed, or built around pain—and once in place, they become the lens you use to see everything.

That lens has a name:

The Loop.

What Is a Loop?

A loop is a self-reinforcing system of thought, emotion, identity, and behavior that keeps you stuck—but convinces you that you’re free.

It looks like this:

Trigger → Emotion → Meaning → Reaction → Identity → Confirmation → Repeat

Let’s break it down:

1. Trigger – Something happens (someone disagrees, you get ignored, an old wound is touched)

2. Emotion – You feel something intense (anger, shame, fear, righteousness)

3. Meaning – You unconsciously assign a story to it (“They’re attacking me,” “This always happens to me”)

4. Reaction – You respond based on that story

5. Identity – You attach to the reaction: “This is who I am.”

6. Confirmation – You find evidence to justify the loop (news, friends, social media)

7. Repeat – The loop reinforces itself next time you’re triggered

It feels like truth.

But it’s just familiarity.

The Loop Is Addictive—Even When It Hurts

Why do we stay in loops?

Because they give us:

• Certainty

• Identity

• Emotional energy

• Community (others inside the same loop)

Even if the loop is painful… it’s predictable.

And the ego would rather be certain and stuck than open and unsure.

This is why people cling to beliefs that no longer serve them.

Why some activists sound angry, not grounded.

Why some traditionalists sound scared, not secure.

Not because they’re bad.

Because they’re not free.

They’re looped.

The Loop Justifies Anything

When you’re in a loop:

• You’ll villainize anyone who disagrees

• You’ll spiritualize your shadow

• You’ll intellectualize your pain

• You’ll perform morality instead of practicing presence

This is how smart people become blind.

How kind people become cruel.

How “aware” people become the most closed-minded of all.

Not because they’ve failed.

But because the loop convinced them they had already arrived.

No One Escapes the Loop Without the Mirror

This is where You Before Me becomes more than a phrase.

It becomes a tool.

Because you can’t see the loop from inside the loop.

You need:

• Space

• Pause

• Perspective

And that starts with one simple shift:

“Before I speak, I reflect.”

“Before I project, I pause.”

“Before I defend, I ask: What is this really about?”

Breaking the Loop Isn’t Easy

You will feel:

• Uncertain

• Small

• Unseen

• Humbled

But that’s the cost of liberation.

And once you pay it, you earn something far more powerful than identity: You earn your clarity

Final Layer: The Battlefield and the Mirror

Let’s be honest:

Bringing You Before Me into politics is the last thing we ever wanted to do.

It’s the most explosive space.

The most divided.

The most reactive.

The most defended.

And yet… it’s exactly where this reflection is needed most.

Because politics isn’t just policies anymore—it’s identity.

It’s safety.

It’s ego in a costume of righteousness.

And that’s why resistance to YBM will be strongest here.

Because it doesn’t argue with your beliefs.

It goes underneath them.

It goes into the wiring.

The Game Beneath the Game

What looks like a debate about the world

is often just a game to protect the self.

When you scream for change but avoid reflection—

When you fight for justice but can’t sit in discomfort—

When you demand reform but refuse to witness your own shadow—

You are not changing anything.

You are looping louder.

And the most dangerous part?

You don’t even know it’s happening.

The Rabbit Hole Beneath Politics

Politics is not the battlefield.

It’s the surface.

Beneath it is a web of:

• Unhealed trauma

• Projected identity

• Ego defense mechanisms

• Loops disguised as truth

• Childhood pain wearing adult logic

People say they’re fighting for the future.

But most are just fighting to protect a psychological pattern they never questioned.

And when every side is doing that?

Division is not just likely—it’s guaranteed.

Why Division Won’t Stop

As long as we:

• Ignore our own internal systems

• Worship external change

• Bypass emotional reflection

• Try to control everything through performance…

Division will continue.

Not because we’re different.

But because we’re all unaware of what’s driving us.

And that’s the real battlefield.

Not policies.

Not parties.

Not tweets.

But the space between trigger and reflection that almost no one ever looks into.

The Illusion of Control

Here’s the deepest layer:

The more you try to manipulate the world to feel safe,

The more you expose the truth:

You don’t feel safe inside yourself.

You scream louder.

You post more.

You gather data.

You win arguments.

But you’re not in control.

You’re in a loop trying to look like you are.

And the world mirrors it.

Loop for loop.

Side for side.

Until there’s nothing left but noise.

We didn’t want to bring YBM into politics. But we had to. Because this is the one place people have become so certain of their truth, they’ve stopped asking questions. So these three words are not asking you to change your mind. They are asking you to look behind it.

To stop managing the system long enough to witness the self running it. To stop trying to win the game—and ask who you became while playing it. Because at the end of the day:

You are not the game. You are the one who can choose to leave the board.

And in that choice, real power begins. Not power over others— But peace within yourself.

And that peace?

That’s what starts to ripple.

That’s what breaks the loop.

That’s what we haven’t tried.

Until now.

You Before Me.

Congratulations

You made it.

You made it through a blog that didn’t feed your ego.

That didn’t confirm your side.

That didn’t give you ammo to win arguments or out-moral your opponent.

You didn’t receive more information to weaponize your bias with.

You received three words that began to reconnect the parts of you that have been out of sync.

You downloaded something different.

Not intellectually.

But internally.

Something that doesn’t scream for change…

but invites it to happen organically—as you begin to see yourself clearly.

This is where the real work begins.

Not in the next post.

Not in the next protest.

But in the next moment you feel triggered… and remember to look inward first.

You’ve just held the mirror.

And whether you realize it yet or not—

You’ve started the voyage.

You Before Me.